So I get in touch for some tips I can pass on to Recent Dumpee and a newly divorced friend who’s having a tough time.
‘Dating is stressful and change is hard’, she kicks off briskly, ‘and many single clients still strive for what they describe as a ‘normal life’, by which they mean a monogamous, long term relationship, usually marriage. We’re not our mothers’ or our grandmothers’ generation.
If you want to meet and date more people, then dating apps are a great “arrow in your quiver,” says former Cosmopolitan editor in chief Joanna Coles. ’” Now the chief content officer at Hearst (the publisher of Cosmo), Coles is the author of a new book, “Love Rules: How to Find a Real Relationship in a Digital World.” She told Recode’s Kara Swisher that her research for the book turned up story after story of prolonged digital flirtations that ended after one in-person meeting.
But after the introduction, you need to do the rest of the work. “One of the things I heard repeatedly from men and women is that you would meet this person that you’d had this flirty [text] exchange with, that you thought you knew,” Coles said.
A lot of that is really clichéd and it almost always involves the man at the center of things.” A related trend is the hookup culture that has sprung up thanks to dating apps like Tinder and Grindr.
“It’s difficult to have good sex with strangers, especially if you’ve had very little communication beforehand,” Coles said.
It’s also a popular form of relationship therapy – and is even used to help build confidence in dating and starting over after a split.
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