If any other girl came to me with the same dilemma, I’d tell her the exact same thing dating expert Evan Marc Katz would say.
He’s not that into you if he’s still looking at other women online. Katz makes a great point in one of his blog posts about this very dating dilemma online. There is simply no viable, reasonable, acceptable response he can make – even if, somehow, he has not met ANY new women since “committing” to you,” argues Katz.
Given how much time we spend together, it’s really difficult for me to make a case against him keeping his online dating profile up if his ridiculousness of a truth is, in fact, a truth at all.
He says he likes to read other people’s profile summaries for entertainment purposes while taking a crap on the toilet. I don’t buy it for a second, but in the spirit of trusting him, I went along with it anyway despite my own common sense. Why mess it up with my own emotional hangups and insecurities?
It’s a dilemma that’s more common than you think when online dating turns into an offline relationship.
The funny thing about being in a relationship when you’ve been single for so long is that you go into it having all these preconceived ideas on how you would react to certain dating situations, and you prejudge your future relationships based on your past ones.
My heart sank as the truth I had already known finally started to come out. A man can frame it any way he likes, but the simple truth is that a man doesn’t keep his dating profile up unless he wants to keep his options open.
A relationship can be whatever two people decide it to be, at least that’s my belief.
Breaking up is the easy solution when you’re operating under the guise of a traditional relationship, but there’s no such thing as traditional when it comes to online dating. At the end of the day, you can’t really make someone be with you if they don’t really want to be with you.
In an idealistic world, you’d be able to have your cake and eat it too. All you can really do is let him or her go in peace, and hope that maybe one day soon, he or she will realize before it’s too late what a truly great catch you really are.
When you meet someone online and you start spending more and more time together, the last thing you’re thinking about is your online dating profile, let alone updating or deleting it.
After all, you don’t want to jinx the relationship before it even has a chance to start.