Even if the dating or intimate relationship your teen wants to get involved with is legal, you should consider the risks inherent in allowing your teen to date someone who is more than a year or two older or younger that he or she is.The mental, emotional and physical differences between a 14-year-old and a 16-year-old are much more significant than they are between two adults of similar age differences.D., a psychologist and author of A relationship age gap bigger than 10 years often comes with its own set of issues.“While there are always exceptions to rules, a good rule to remember is that dating someone more than 10 years older will present challenges now or later that add to the preexisting challenges any relationship has,” he says.He was closer to 40 than I was to 30, and I felt like he’d inevitably want marriage and children much sooner than I would.So I let our connection slip away, allowing my concern over our age difference to overshadow our passion.A week later, somewhere between one and four glasses of wine, he told me I looked “quite young” and asked how old I was.“I’m 25,” I said, trying to seem proud of the number even though I’d just celebrated this birthday with a bit of dread about growing up.
The truth is that age is not just a number, says Seth Meyers, Ph.
Couples with a big age difference need to think things through or risk finding themselves at conflicting stages in their relationship.
“You can see varied cultural references, disapproval from family and friends, and perhaps community disapproval, as well,” says Rachel Sussman, a licensed marriage and family therapist in New York.
“It might be hard to relate to each other’s peer groups too.”Since dating the lawyer, I’ve capped my ideal man at about five to seven years older than me, especially on dating apps, where you can filter out those in a specific age group.
But at the same time, I still keep an open mind—a big age gap doesn't have to be a nonstarter.
Bill Albert of the Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy claims that research has repeatedly shown that teens who date someone older are more likely to engage in sexual behavior and to become pregnant.