A Dutch study this year showed that reduces one's chances of having a new, successful relationship -- slightly more for women than for men. It's no wonder newly dating divorcees may be hesitant to mention the details."Many people hide these truths because they don't want to scare off a potential date, but hiding such information will make your date feel tricked," says Christie Hartman, a Denver psychologist and author of "Dating the Divorced Man: Sort Through the Baggage to Decide If He's Right for You." Here's how to reveal your previous marriage to your potential future spouse.If you have kids Always reveal up front that you have kids.Not only does your love life have to factor in your kids' schedules and lives, but some people prefer to date those without kids.While co-parenting with their former spouse, adjusting to a new routine and establishing a separate household, dads may meet someone new whom they want to share their life and family with.Children are adjusting too, and introducing a significant other too soon — or someone who is not a positive influence — can have damaging psychological and emotional effects.Before making introductions, tell your kids about the person you're dating, and why they'll like him or her.
If you don't do that, you come across as being dishonest." But take it more slowly when it comes to telling the kids.However, it's important to understand your date's perspective."The overarching fear is that your 'baggage' will bring unhappiness into his or her life," says Hartman.Every mental health professional underscores the same rule: wait.“Don’t hurry to introduce someone new to your kids,” says Aaron Welch, a licensed therapist with The Lifeworks Group in Winter Park, Fla.
"Ultimately, your partner needs to like your kids," says Hartman.