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But in reality, it’s still about a boy who was vulnerable to manipulation.
: the most exhaustive list I’ve ever found is in the book Secret Survivors, by E. It’s an old one (1998) but it is still worth reading if any of this feels like it might be your truth. Can’t tolerate having water hit them in the face (in the shower or pool) 3.
It is not my place as a therapist, in my opinion, to diagnose or make decisions about your past. So while the items on this list are common in the people I’ve worked with, I do NOT use it as a tool to tell clients they’ve been abused. It provides a possible underlying reason that my client chose to come to therapy at this time. May not enjoy bathing; personal hygiene can be a challenge; alternately they may shower fastidiously and too often 4.
What happens to any of us as children does not need to define us as adults or men. They can, however, be manipulated into experiences they do not like, or even understand, at the time.
It is important to remember that 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused before age 18 (see Many boys and men believe this myth and feel lots of guilt and shame because they got physically aroused during the abuse. They often attempt to maintain secrecy, and to keep the abuse going, by telling the child that his sexual response shows he was a willing participant and complicit in the abuse. (See Guilt and Shame.)There are many situations where a boy, after being gradually manipulated with attention, affection and gifts, feels like he wants such attention and sexual experiences.
Not trust the body (to be strong, graceful, reliable, healthy) 15.