You are just a mysterious part of a married man’s life that surfaces when he packs his bag and tells his wife he’s travelling to another city.It’s insulting, especially when he says you mean so much to him, but that’s the life you have to accept. And every time you ask him to walk out of his relationship, it would just lead to frustrated tears. And at times, it can take years for you to accept the love of a genuine man you meet later in life."It was very clear what the hierarchy was, but he called us both his 'girlfriends,'" she says.The expiration date on this experiment was crucial: "I didn't want to be obsessing every day whether it worked for me, because that's a recipe for unhappiness." At the end of the six months, she'd assess.A few days after the Mo'Nique story ran, Direc TV debuted a new show called , about a married couple in Portland who start seeing a woman; it was quickly renewed for two more seasons.The rise in interest in open relationships has been chronicled in countless print and online outlets over the past five-plus years ( The recent media glut notwithstanding, an important voice has gone missing: that of the extracurricular partner, the lover, the girlfriend or boyfriend—people like Ivy.All you start talking about is the good times both of you share every day.And then, one fine day, just before hanging up he says, “Sweetheart, if only I wasn’t married, I would be so in love with you. The beginning of the end The real dark story unveils here.
And this cycle of happiness and pain repeats itself until you can’t take it anymore.That one conversation in the office cubicle takes you all the way to the coffee shop, the snack bar, the restaurant, and the movie hall.Both of you end up talking about it over the phone, and at some point of time, there’s a total block of his family turmoil.The realization – Being used by a married man When I was involved with a married man, I felt terribly used.I hated myself for doing what I was doing, and yet, I couldn’t help myself. That’s what happens to any woman who’s involved with a married man, because when you’re the “other woman” there are no weekends together, no family parties, no meeting friends, nothing.
She became his polyamory protégé, and has since had four open relationships.